Why does the universe let toxic people into your life?

When I was healing from a narcissistic relationship, I kept asking: why me?

Or when friends walked all over me, I’d wonder: why does this always happen?

I remember that feeling of powerlessness. The fear that others were out to get me.

Do you want to know the hard truth that I wish I knew then?

You attract the people you are a vibrational match for.

The reason why narcissistic people kept coming into my life is because I had a void that they could sense.

I needed the validation of others, which is what attracted people who could take advantage of the situation.

I didn’t know how to set boundaries or protect my energy, which is what allowed people to walk all over me.

It’s not your fault. Just like how it wasn’t mine.

Most of us aren’t taught boundaries, or self-worth, or energetic protection.

But you must take radical responsibility moving forward, since

you teach people how to treat you based on how you treat yourself.

• Are you casually hooking up, even when you want a commitment?

• Are you biting your tongue and not standing up for yourself when someone does something that makes you uncomfortable?

• Do you laugh at jokes made at your expense?

• Do you put others on a pedestal?

• Do you chase people’s approval instead of affirming your own worth?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, it’s time to self-validate.

Here’s a quick self-validation ritual for your Sunday Reset:

1. Find a quiet space. Your bedroom, your car, nature, etc. (Optional: play a healing frequency or instrumental music to center into the present).

2. Recall a moment that triggered you. Maybe you were hurt by someone else, or seeking closure or validation from them.

3. As you allow the trigger to arise, ask: What did I really need in this moment? Was it really the validation from this person, or was it something deeper?

4. Ask, without judgment: how could I have given that to myself? Just play with the answers that arise in your mind. If you feel any pressure to “fix” yourself, just notice that too. That pressure can suggest you are not whole and complete in this very moment, and (even if you don’t feel like it) you are.

Because here is the wild paradox: literally no one can validate you in the way you can validate yourself.

We think the answers are in others, but it’s all an illusion.

The only reason we seek validation through others is because of a void that believes it needs someone else to fill it.

To the 14-Day Energy Shifters and interested community members, I’m building an in-depth online program!! I’d love to gift you lifetime access at a discount and invite your input on what you’d love to see included in the program.

It’ll have deep-dive videos, live tools, & resources of all the details that have taken my nervous system and many others out of survival mode.

Since this is my first time building something like this, I want it to feel deeply valuable and aligned with what you and others on this journey would need.

Hit Reply and share your thoughts:) 💌

I luv you guys, ❤️

Emma