How do I stop feeling so empty and triggered?

Hey there. 🤍

If you have…

• felt the “void”

• felt empty and purposeless

• have felt “darkness”, or suffering, or lived in a constant state of being triggered

• felt scared to think certain thoughts

…I’m so glad you’re here today. It never feels like it when you’re in the thick of it, but everything you’re experiencing is necessary for true transformation. It’s part of the process.

Our brains like to trick us into thinking that something is wrong with us when we’re just human.

I wrote this down in my journal this morning:

What feels like emptiness & pain to your ego is expansion for your higher self.

We need the suffering and the emptiness as physical cues to tell us where not to go.

Think about it like this: if you were to put your hand over a hot stove, your body sends your brain signals telling you, “This is too hot!! It hurts!!”, to which you immediately correct course and take your hand off the stove.

The only issue with psychological pain is that we are not taught how to listen to it.

• We spend time with “friends” who subtly make us feel like we need to prove ourselves to earn approval or drain our energy, and instead of distancing ourselves, we push harder to gain acceptance or make them feel comfortable. We just hit the gas and bulldoze right over our body’s boundaries.

• We date, or even marry, people who trigger our attachment wounds and keep us anxious or depressed. Rather than leaving or having honest conversations, we assume the problem is us and stay. Or worse, we begin to believe the thoughts that come from our wounded attachment.

• We chase accolades, shiny objects, and external validation, convinced they’ll finally make us happy. When they inevitably don’t, rather than stopping the act altogether, we try even harder. We move on to the next person, promotion, degree, or brainrot reel and stay stuck in the loop.

These are considered common in our society, but are the psychological equivalent of pressing your hand into the hot stove.

Just completely ignoring the signals of pain and suffering your body and mind are sending you, and thinking that somehow, by doing what you’re already doing (just harder), will give you the feeling you’re looking for.

Just drop the act.

It’s easier said than done. It’s scary to think you might need to dump someone, quit your job, be honest with yourself, or stop acting for the approval of others.

On the other side of the silence and emptiness is space. That is where your highest self will meet you.

What feels like emptiness to your ego is expansion for your higher self.

As Dr. Martha Beck said, “Every negative emotion is the raw material for its opposite.”

When I was struggling with insomnia, with depressive episodes, and traumatic thoughts so intense that I woke up with panic, I dreaded living.

Years later, I wake up (from deep, comfortable sleep) with joy. 95% of days, it feels like my blood was replaced with glittery bubbly champagne, and gratitude and abundance are seeping from my pores. I didn’t think being this happy and aligned was possible. But it had to fucking suck for years to get here.

Listen to your body. Listen to the emptiness. It has all the answers you’re looking for.

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💌 Hit Reply and let me know what you thought of this week’s letter.

With light and love now and always,

Emma ❤️