6 behaviors that make you unattractive.

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We attract what we are.

Attractiveness isn’t just physical—it’s about the energy we bring into our lives. Here are 6 behaviors to be mindful of to remove blockages and align with what we truly want.

Attraction is holistic, so I’ve divided them into mind, body, and spirit.

⟡ Mind:

1. Judging others.

   What you see in others reflects what you see in yourself.

   On anxious days, I judge everyone (including myself) much more harshly. But when I shift into kindness, my world reflects it back.

   ✦ Tool for the week: Notice the next time you judge someone. Ask yourself: Do I see this in myself? Is it worth judging?

2. Letting your emotions control your actions.

   Fear, anger, and negative emotions are necessary to the human experience. But the more you act out of them, the more you wire your brain to attract negativity. We tell our body and brain what is real based on how we behave.

   ✦ Tool for the week: When negative emotions arise, fill your belly with a big breath and hold for five seconds. After you release, ask yourself, “How would my highest self act in this situation?” If you have no clear answer, try the belly breathing practice 3 more times.

⟡ Body:

3. Not caring for your physical health.

   Our ancestors moved daily for millions of years. Your body needs movement to function optimally. Not caring for your body means not caring for yourself.

   ✦ Tool for the week: Keep it simple. All it takes to start is a five-minute walk once a day. Expect to feel resistance, and treat it as a cue to get up and move.

4. Poor posture & lack of presence.

   Slouching and avoiding eye contact signal low energy. Confident body language shifts how others—and you—perceive yourself.

   I have so many friends and colleagues who tell me how confident I seem, but on most days, I don’t wake up feeling confident. It comes from the way I show up. Emotions tend to follow action, not the other way around.

   ✦ Tool for the week: Roll your shoulders back, lift your chin, and take up space. Allow yourself to walk with intention. Especially if you don’t feel like it.

⟡ Spirit

5. Ignoring your intuition.

   It is extremely attractive when someone sets boundaries, knows what they want, and feels confident in their inner voice. Your gut instinct is a survival tool. The more you ignore it, the weaker it gets.

   ✦ Tool for the week: Before making a decision, place your hand on your heart and ask, Does this feel expansive or constrictive? Honor the first answer that comes.

6. Lack of a meditation and/or breathwork practice

   Your nervous system needs regulation. Without a practice to calm the mind and body, stress compounds over time. I know from experience that when I’m in a state of stress and desperation, I become much less attractive to the things I truly want.

   ✦ Tool for the week: Spend 5 minutes daily in stillness. Try box breathing (inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4) or a simple guided meditation.

Thank you for committing to bettering yourself, and enjoy your Sunday Reset. <3

Much love and light,

Emma